Have you ever noticed that when you get pissed off, and are really just VENTING about something that language takes a back burner to emotion. How we say what we're feeling is very informal, sometimes loaded with profanity (like mine, *pulls face*) and we're not a whole lot concerned with how other people are gonna react. Mostly because we're not thinking about other people's reactions to our own vitriole. Really. I mean, when I get pissed or offended at something and want to vent about it, I really just don't even THINK about other people; I guess I'm just not that good a person.
BUT, when someone points out that "ummm, dude. You might be hurtin' peeps feelings here," we get formal. Like, "Oh! I do apologize. That certainly did not even cross my mind." We're sincere in our remorse, but it's so stiff and stilted, it gets taken for "How dare you imply that I would be so stupid as to hurt people!"
Sometimes I wonder if we make a situation worse when pulling back and trying to retract what WAS said by offering apologies and the like. *shrug*
Just wondering....
BUT, when someone points out that "ummm, dude. You might be hurtin' peeps feelings here," we get formal. Like, "Oh! I do apologize. That certainly did not even cross my mind." We're sincere in our remorse, but it's so stiff and stilted, it gets taken for "How dare you imply that I would be so stupid as to hurt people!"
Sometimes I wonder if we make a situation worse when pulling back and trying to retract what WAS said by offering apologies and the like. *shrug*
Just wondering....
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